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Would it surprise you to learn that only 5 percent of women at age 65 will meet a new man in the next 12-month period? And it\u2019s not because all the good men are taken. It\u2019s because so many single women don\u2019t truly want to date. They think they do, but when they really have an opportunity, it turns out they are online dating for many other reasons.<\/p>\n
In a dating study, 44 percent of people admitted that they use dating apps to boost their confidence, provide entertainment, and validate that they \u2018still got it\u2019. Meaning that singles post an online profile, and maybe even respond to messages only to see how many men like<\/em><\/strong> them so they can measure their attractiveness. Many women have no desire to meet up with a man for a real date. They are looking for validation, rather than love.<\/p>\n Everyone likes to be liked. And our brain gets a rush of dopamine every time we see those magical words, it\u2019s a match,<\/em> pop up in a dating app. You get a rush of \u2018feel good\u2019 chemicals when you get a respectable number of likes, compliments, and messages from men. You can prove to yourself that you are still attractive and loveable, even at this stage of life, all from the comfort of your own home.<\/p>\n Feeling flattered by compliments is natural. It only becomes dangerous when your personal self-worth becomes tied to those compliments. The dating world is fickle, and you always get more attention when you\u2019re new to a dating site and you first post your profile.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re feeling beautiful only because you received 20 \u2018likes\u2019 in one day, how will you feel when two months later, this number dwindles down to five? Confidence is such an important aspect of successful dating that it\u2019s important to feel confident in yourself regardless of how men view you.<\/p>\n Yes, women are confident at this stage of life. However, being confident in your work life or social circle can be very different from feeling confident in love and relationships. If you are new to the dating scene, it\u2019s natural to feel a little uncomfortable. Everyone feels awkward when learning something new. Yes, it\u2019s safe.<\/p>\n However, if you settle for keeping men at arm\u2019s length and never meet men in real life, you\u2019ll never increase your skill level, self-confidence, or self-esteem at your core. And it\u2019s your strong and worthy mindset that keeps you from feeling needy and powerless.<\/p>\n If you go into dating with the old-fashioned mindset of, \u2018I hope he likes me\u2019, it can be easy to fall into this external validation trap. You\u2019re waiting to be picked by a man. However, when you shift your mindset to, \u2018I hope I like him\u2019, it gives you back some control of your love life and helps you date for the right reasons; to find someone special you can invite into your life.<\/p>\n If you notice yourself having a hard time setting boundaries<\/a>, jumping from man to man, saying \u201cYes\u201d when you want to say \u201cNo,\u201d avoiding conflict, or stretching the truth to earn a sympathetic ear, here are some simple strategies to help strengthen your self-validation from the inside out.<\/p>\n Worthiness is not a commodity. There are no requirements or qualifications you must have to be worthy of love. Even though our worthiness may have gotten tarnished along the way, we were born with a full love tank. Now rather than wait for someone else to assure you, know you\u2019re the one person you can always count on. You know who you are and what you need to be happy. All you need to do now is give yourself permission to ask for what you want.<\/p>\n Successful dating is an inside-outside process. You want to feel worthy on the inside of dating those high-quality men who can love you the way you want to be loved. And you want to understand positive age-specific dating tips and strategies from the outside so you can date with clarity and confidence on your journey to finding love.<\/p>\n This is why I include my exclusive outside\/inside coaching system in all my coaching programs<\/a>. If you don\u2019t have the right mindset, your skillset won\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n What\u2019s the one thing in your life you are the proudest of and why? Where do you find your worth? Do you wait for others to appreciate you? Or do you have your own self-confidence that is above all?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n\n