{"id":15209,"date":"2025-05-20T18:05:48","date_gmt":"2025-05-20T18:05:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/topat10.com\/?p=15209"},"modified":"2025-05-20T18:05:48","modified_gmt":"2025-05-20T18:05:48","slug":"this-happiness-author-used-to-claim-happiness-is-a-choice-now-she-admits-she-was-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/topat10.com\/?p=15209","title":{"rendered":"This happiness author used to claim happiness is a choice. Now she admits she was wrong"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Jennifer Moss, best-selling author, speaker, and happiness<\/a> researcher, says that some of the core lessons she\u2019s taught throughout her career were wrong. Now, she\u2019s sharing a new prescription for happiness.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I first wrote Unlocking Happiness at Work<\/em>, it was really centered around individual mindset and psychological fitness, and that we could, through certain efforts of our own, be able to choose happiness,\u201d Moss tells Fortune<\/em>. <\/p>\n

Her 2016 book resonated at the time\u2014before the pandemic and the rise of remote work, when burnout, mental health, and loneliness were not conversations dominating the zeitgeist. <\/p>\n

But years of research\u2014and her own dissatisfaction despite using scientifically sound tools to improve her mindset\u2014proved there is much more to the happiness equation. \u201cQuick fixes,\u201d as she calls self-care practices, such as bathing or listening to rain sounds before bed, didn\u2019t do the trick. Relying on self-care alone is shortsighted, Moss says, who released a revised version of the book last month. <\/p>\n

\u201cFor a female being in front of venture capitalists that continue to refuse you for all these reasons that are just based on bias \u2026 you can’t just gratitude your way out of that,\u201d Moss says. <\/p>\n

Moss recognizes that the state of the world has dramatically shifted in the last decade. The State of the Nation Project\u2019s annual progress<\/a> report, released earlier this year, found that voter participation, belief in democracy, and trust in government, police, and educational systems are declining in the U.S<\/a>.  <\/p>\n

\u201cWe have to dig even deeper, asking questions around happiness,\u201d Moss says. <\/p>\n

Individual measures to improve happiness are not moving the needle. Moss points to more collective, community-forward ways to boost happiness. Here\u2019s a new framework:\u00a0<\/p>\n

Advocate in your community <\/strong><\/h2>\n

Global issues, economic uncertainty, and politics affect emotional health. When there isn\u2019t much you can control, it can leave you feeling powerless. <\/p>\n

However, engaging locally can make a powerful difference, whether advocating for better work policies or taking on an elected or unelected leadership role to serve your neighbors on a mission you care about. <\/p>\n

Rely on others and be reliable <\/strong><\/h2>\n

Research shows that the strength of our relationships is a core determinant <\/a>of our happiness throughout our lives. Staying intentionally connected, Moss says, is key. One way to start small is by prioritizing shared meals at work and home. No more \u201cdinner al desko,\u201d Moss says. (Forgoing the sad desk salad and sharing a meal with others has mental health benefits<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Moss, who was on the council for the World Happiness Report<\/a>, also points to how having strong connections can improve our trust in others. This year\u2019s happiness report showed that people underestimated how many lost wallets would be returned. The research showed that people are more benevolent than we may think. Further, trusting that people can be good has a powerful impact on our happiness. <\/p>\n

Choose happiness for others <\/strong><\/h2>\n

The people around us heavily shape our perception of the world. The Workforce Institute<\/a> at UKG<\/a> found that your boss plays a bigger role in your mental health than your therapist. One way to improve happiness is to consider how you come across in the spaces you occupy. \u201cChoosing kindness and being altruistic is one of the best ways to improve well-being,\u201d Moss says. <\/p>\n

For example, Moss asks us to think about how we speak to our colleagues, and even how our social media activity may influence others in positive or negative ways that we can control. <\/p>\n

\u201cWhen we are so individually focused on attainment, but not doing any of those things to affect our communities or society, it ends up just sort of living in this vacuum,\u201d Moss says. \u201cThe more we think about the rest of society and improving happiness for others, the more we get the kickback of happiness in our lives.\u201d<\/p>\n

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