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Being crazy passionate about what I have been doing as a dating coach for four decades (gulp, I just counted them \u2013 the \u201990s, \u201900s, \u201910s, and now the \u201920s), you bet I notice differences! Trends seem to shift every few years, and thanks to AI, an aging population, and a well-educated dating scene, singles and those in their second acts are becoming bolder and more adventurous as their experiences with online dating grow.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what\u2019s hot \u2013 and what\u2019s totally not \u2013 in the dating world of 2025.<\/p>\n

1. Strategy Focused<\/h2>\n

\u201cThis is what I want \u2013 but how do I get there?\u201d This is the main question I hear. With over 1,400 dating platforms on the market, it\u2019s a fair question.<\/p>\n

How do I handle this on Zoom calls with my new clients? First, I listen for an hour. It gives me time to formulate my thoughts and an individual strategy for them. Next, I send them my Personal Business Plan to fill out (yes, the most popular worksheet in my new book released last week: 2nd Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating<\/em><\/a>).<\/p>\n

Strategy and dating? Oh yes, they go together like garlic bread and pasta. No, it\u2019s not unromantic \u2013 it\u2019s smart! And I am all about getting you to my 65% column of clients who end up meeting their partner. Don\u2019t let starry eyes get in your way \u2013 love needs a game plan!<\/p>\n

2. Green Flags Waving<\/h2>\n

We all know about red flags<\/a>, right? They mean RUN. Delete. Block. But what about green flags? The good signs we should be paying attention to?<\/p>\n

Quick story: I had a client in her 60s, sharp, accomplished, gorgeous \u2013 and a pro at sniffing out red flags before she even met a guy. Google Lens? Check. Social media deep dive? Check. Background search? You bet. She was rejecting men before even saying hello!<\/p>\n

So, when she called me fretting over a guy with an MBA, great photos, and a solid life \u2013 but only a year post-divorce \u2013 I told her, \u201cTake a deep breath, put the detective badge away, and just meet him.\u201d<\/p>\n

Result? A six-hour first date, a Sunday football party where her girlfriends were ga-ga over him, and a Monday night pickleball match. Turns out, while his divorce was a year ago, his separation was four years back \u2013 he was more than ready. And for the first time, she sounded giddy. Even my husband, who\u2019s heard all about her, said, \u201cWow, I didn\u2019t think you\u2019d find her someone!\u201d<\/p>\n

So, let\u2019s not get so lost in the red flags that we miss the green ones. Sometimes, you just have to show up.<\/p>\n

3. Embracing Niche Interests<\/h2>\n

Dating profiles used to be full of broad hobbies \u2013 \u201cI love skiing and hiking!\u201d \u2013 but now? It\u2019s all about the niche passions: glass blowing, salsa dancing, building miniatures, collecting rare vinyl.<\/p>\n

Why? Because being unapologetically you is attractive. Will she be taking up glass blowing with him? Probably not. But it makes conversations more interesting and gives relationships more dimension. No one wants a clone \u2013 variety keeps things spicy!<\/p>\n

4. Loud Looking<\/h2>\n

Just like it sounds; saying exactly what you\u2019re looking for on your dating profile. But with grace, of course! No vague \u201cjust seeing what\u2019s out there\u201d nonsense.<\/p>\n

Confidence is hot. Own what you want. Be bold. Be clear. And guess what? You\u2019ll attract the right kind of attention \u2013 no mind games required.<\/p>\n

5. Less Pressure, More Picky<\/h2>\n

Oh, I love this one. Clients are realizing there are way more fish in the sea than they anticipated \u2013 and they absolutely do not need to settle. If it\u2019s not a match, next!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s refreshing. It\u2019s empowering. And honestly? It makes dating more fun.<\/p>\n

Bonus: What\u2019s Out (Thank God!)<\/h2>\n

Slow Dating<\/h3>\n

Endless texting and phone calls with someone you\u2019ll probably never meet. Ain\u2019t nobody got time for that.<\/p>\n

Benching<\/h3>\n

That annoying \u201ckind of interested but keeping you on standby\u201d move? Yeah, we\u2019re all too smart for that now.<\/p>\n

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Grim Keeping<\/h3>\n

Bonding over shared dislikes and complaints. Misery might love company, but love thrives on joy.<\/p>\n

When I read through all of this, it comes back to strategy, openness, mindset, and knowing what you want. Cheers to 2025 dating \u2013 let\u2019s make it bold, smart, and fun!<\/p>\n

In my book I offer 14 worksheets and QR Codes<\/a> that take you to coaching videos to get you on the right path to dating \u2013 and having fun with the entire process \u2013 yes, I said FUN!<\/p>\n

Reflection Questions:<\/h2>\n

What is your mindset about dating, life and love? Would you like a relationship? Are you willing to give dating one more chance and commit for 3 months with a strategy?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n